Experience is the Best Teacher
I remember the day I found out I was pregnant with my first child. Late that evening, I was curled up under the plush, white covers, glasses on and pen in hand, journaling about my reaction to the news. I felt as though I was embarking on a new adventure. I was so very ready for a new adventure; nothing was going to keep me from it! I was so certain and so ready to welcome a baby into our lives and become a mother. Although I had big questions about how this change was going to impact my career, I was ready to find my answers.
Fast forward nine months and I was waist deep in lukewarm water in a hydrotherapy tub. The room was a buzz as my support people talked in the background and my labour nurse focused on vital signs. The clock on the wall stared back at me, slowly ticking, as the doubts crept into my head, How much longer am I going to have to do this? How much harder is this going to get? Can I do this? I was 34 hours into a 39 hour labour. I will always remember those doubts and I will always remember the moment I let go of those doubts and how I felt coming out the other end. I was so tired. But I was liberated, uninhibited, strong. And it was so worth it.
Although I was not anticipating those doubts, they’ve served as a reminder that regardless of how prepared I am for any situation there will always be things out of my hands that can crop up and impact my mindset. But I have the grit to work through it and come out the other end even stronger. The marathon of labour prepared me well for the even greater marathon of motherhood.
After I welcomed my first child into our lives and joined the ranks of motherhood, I finally took a leap of faith and did something I had dreamed about for years – I started my business. Motherhood inspired me to do so, and to do so in a way I hadn’t before imagined. I left behind a stable job in my field of career development to combine my background as a career coach and a sociologist of gender and work with my life situation of new motherhood.
Once my mind was set, in a matter of months I launched Shift Career Coaching, the only Canadian career development company run by a Career Development Practitioner specialized in gender and work that, at the time, exclusively served moms across Canada.
As I get ready for yet another big change coming my way welcoming baby #2 into our lives, I recall the doubts I felt just hours before meeting my first child and how I felt coming out at the other end of those doubts. It’s my evidence that I have the strength for the transition ahead and to come out even stronger. And let’s face it. I’m not in it alone. I have a great personal and professional support network to turn to. Also, for a living I help other moms with these very issues of combining career and motherhood. Although it will take time for the new pieces of my puzzle to find a place, I have a wealth of resources, tools, and experience to draw upon and make it work.
If you missed my first post in my Babies and a Business series check it out here. I'm filled with anticipation as my story unfolds and can't wait to share more of it with you. Thanks for following along!