Make the Most of Change: Part 3
Welcome back to the Make the Most of Change Series. Catch up on Parts One and Two of the series if you’re just starting out now. Today I’m sharing Tips Four and Five to look at small actions you can take to make greater sense of the change you’re facing.
Tip Four: Enlist support.
Women often feel guilty when asking others for help or putting their needs first. But seeking support from others will breakdown the feeling of isolation that can accompany a transition. Put your hesitations aside and connect with your supporters.
Reaching out to others to build your support network can be as simple as having a conversation. Do you have a friend who loves to listen? Great, call her tonight. Friends and family are often good sources of perspective. You can gain valuable insight on where you are and where you want to go from a good heart-to-heart discussion with someone who knows you well.
Or do you have a colleague who knows every resource and tidbit of information about what’s going on in your field and is eager to share it? Awesome, track her down at the office tomorrow and extend a coffee invite. When you engage with your supporters you gain clarity on the possibilities around you. You might even see a new path that you hadn’t before considered.
Now is also a good time to decide what you need in order to prioritize opportunities to work through your change. For instance, do you need to ask your partner for a night off from family duties once a week so you can spend that time researching a new career direction? Or maybe you need to re-prioritize funds from your household's budget so you can enroll in a professional development course to advance your career. Figure out what you need, communicate it, and protect it.
Tip Five: Discover the new you.
When I became a mom and my baby was five weeks old I attended my first Mom and Baby Yoga Series. I felt like a fish out of water. All the other moms seemed to be totally in their element, while I was still trying to figure out how to get through a new activity with my newborn and me still in one piece by the end. But that was okay, because I had only been a mom for five weeks. I stuck it out and by the end of the series I had found my stride.
Trying new activities to embrace your changing situation can help you discover the new you and get in touch with all that you have to gain ahead. You need time to practice your new role. Give yourself opportunities to settle into the new you. If you’re finding it hard to prioritize time and resources to do so, this is a great chance for you to practice Tip Four by enlisting support.
Coming up this Thursday I’ll provide Tip Six and give you a free worksheet to build on today’s advice with an action-oriented activity.
In the meantime, think of one thing you're going to do to build your support network or discover the new you. Share it in the comments so others can learn from your ideas. Plus, as you'll read in Thursday's post, when you write down a goal you're more likely to commit and follow through!